| What does "need" have to do with it? It's your money, and you use it for things you like. Sometimes, you need things, and you get those things. But, sometimes, it's nice to get something you want, not something you "need". It's nice to please other people, but you have to please yourself too.
To make a parallel, my wife needs a lot of help, and I almost drove myself into the ground till I learned to take time for myself (thanks to a good shrink, and, no I'm not ready for the coocoo's nest yet). If you never do anything to please yourself, you'll eventually become so frustrated, nobody will want to hang around you. Maybe a little extreme, but that's my take on your problem.
Take the decision that's best for you, but keep in mind that you are sharing your life with somebody else.
Good luck. |