Leaving the forum, end note

[WendyB]

The five scariest days of my life happened midweek.

Some of you that know me already are aware of this. For those of you that do not, my profession in life is a surgical nurse.

On Tuesday, after finishing a rigorous 9 hours in the operating room on one patient. Thank God we saved her life. The surgeon took me aside while we were leaving the operating room. He very calmly said “Wendy I need to speak with you over coffee right now”

During the surgery I kept noticing eye contact between the surgeon and myself. This is not the norm in such critical situation. Midway through the surgery I thought I saw tears from these doctors eyes (we have worked over 20 years with each other in surgery). He quickly composed himself and professionally moved forward.

Thinking the best, in my mind, I think someone has a crush on me and now I have to explain to him I am very much in love with my husband.

Doc expressed, “Wendy I think it would be more appropriate to go to Starbucks outside of the hospital rather the cafeteria “I agreed and we moved to this meeting place.

Very cordially at Starbucks I was asked to order anything that I want. I thought in my mind”yep right someone thinks they are getting laid tonight but not with me”

WRONG,

Wendy, “did you have your annual mammogram last Monday?” I replied “yes I did do so’ and my heart sunk to an area I have never experienced before. Doc was of the most composed bedside manner I had ever seen from him before.

Very frank and explicit Doc explained. ”Wendy I am not going to scare you just be honest with you, as a nurse you know the term metastasis.

I got up from the table and ran right out the door screaming, no, no, no, this can not happen to me.” I take care of my self this cannot happen to me.”

My Husband and Doc found me on lakeshore drive watching the sunrise in my most beloved place. Lake Saint Clair in the Farms. I wish I had my camera with me for it was the most wonderful sunrises one could ever experience.

One does not know love nor the friendship until they are truly there for you.

They took me back to get an MRI and I showed clear and our hearts were as one.

Whose medical images were these that lead us here? They were of the woman that had the exam before me. We have since found her and she is now going through what I have experienced over the last few days. We now have a new found common bond between us and I will do everything possible to help her through this.

May I express my sincere apology to the forum; at the point in time I posted and I hope anyone would understand my state of mind; initially I was mad at the world.

As for the creampuffs although we may have philosophical differences of opinion we all share a common bond.

Although I have never met most of you I share heartfelt familiarity for all of you in a common bond of this mechanical now translating to the digital phenomena of Pentax Digital photography.

If one can remember the movie “Meet Joe Black” there was a scene with a Jamaican woman who was passing in the hospital. The question was something like, did you like the pictures you took of life? Were they good pictures? Did you like them? Her quote in the movie was?

Think about it,

Wendy

[OniFactor]

heartwrenching, Wendy.. truly.

if you or your new friend ever need anything, i'm sure i'm not alone, or unjustified in saying that we, as a community, would do anything we can, to help.

[Lance B]

Wendy,

Under the circumstances, your reaction and posting of the other day was quite understandable. I can imagine that a scare like that would be enough to make anyone become a little unreasonable and not react in a rational fashion. I do not know how I would react and we all react differently when a scare like this comes along, so I am sure we all understand.

Anyway, I am very glad that the issue was resoved and that it was not you that has the cancer. On the other hand it is a sad story for the other woman, so I hope she can overcome any problems.

Thank you for clearing up the little misunderstanding of earlier this week.

[Damn Brit]

Hi Wendy, I didn't see your previous thread.
We haven't 'spoken' before and I don't think we have even posted on the same thread but you are a member of this Forum and, as such, I care if you are hurting. As they say "what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger".
When I was seventeen my father was diagnosed with Huntington's Disease and my stepmother told me I was probably going to get it too. I had twenty odd years to prepare myself and it still wasn't enough. So I know that you must have been in a world of hurt.
Fortunately I have since been tested and I am clear also.
I guess I'm telling you all this because just saying something like "I know what you were going through" would be a lie just as if you were to say the same to me.
Let's just say that we have had experiences that nobody should have to suffer through. If there is anything I can do, please let me know.
That also goes out to anyone else on the Forum who has a problem in their life.
I hope you forgive me Wendy if it seems like I have hijacked your thread but I also hope you agree with me that we, on this forum, are a community and that we can and will be there for each other.
Gary

[Photo Tramp]

Wendy,
I will not respond to this thread thinking I know what you are going through, or what was going through your mind the other day. I can only imagine the horror you felt.
If there is anything I can personally do for either you or your new friend please let me know. We are a family here on the forum and being a family we are always there for each other.
Please take care and let us know if there is anything we can do.

[Scott Rylance]

Hi Wendy,
It must have been such a shock to get that sort of news and I propably would have reacted the same.
It's good news that all was clear for you. Sad news about the other women though. Very nice of you to help her get through it...and I can understand why.
All the very best. Take car.

[jsherman999]

I think you have many years left battling the evil Walter!

[ricosuave]

wendy,

it takes a lot of courage to share bad news.
the next several months will be tough.
you've got a great support system here on the board.
good luck. you can beat this.

[racinsince55]

I guess that I'm going to be the bad guy here. So, here goes.

I am very happy for you that you have now discovered that you are not the victim of the Cancer. I am also very happy that the actual victim has been located and can be treated.

What I have a problem with is this:

You came to the forum, posted a scathing diatribe, attacked one of the members then used the Cancer to draw sympathy to yourself and attempted to draw others to your side in this attack.

That, young lady, was just plain wrong. Even though you posted an attempt at an apology to the member you attacked, it appeared to be another means to soften your original post.

JMO

[Eastern Shore Charlie]

"To Err Is Human, To Forgive Divine" (when people do things wrong we should try hard to forgive them because all people make mistakes. Wendy I have made many...I am glad you are Okay.....and I don't even know you

[Fl_Gulfer]

I'm not sure what transpired, but we all have to go sometime, "No one gets out of here alive".
I was told I was dieing of Hep-C about 10 years ago and I took it as.. It's no ones fault but mine and I would never take my problems out on others. You should have took a deep breath and stayed off line for awhile. Than talked to us if you wanted after you gained your composure. I'm glad a fellow Michigander & Hubber is going to be OK! I seen many a sunrise over St Clair and they are a beauty.

[barondla]

Not sure what happened. Glad you aren't ill. Everyone has bad times. Don't see any reason to leave the forum. People are pretty understanding here. Hope you still take pictures.
thanks
barondla

Enter POINT & SHOOT CONTEST #7. Any brand camera. Any subject. In the P&S forum.

[Canada_Rockies]

One mistake under extreme stress does not make it necessary to leave. We felt for you. I have seen "diatribes" in this forum - and many more in others! - that make yours seem like a compliment.

This is not excusing you, only empathizing. I went through a less stressful experience, when my doctor found a basal cell carcinoma on my ear. Every 12 months, I go to the doctor and bare all my skin, and pray. So far so good.

A shock as violent as that can cause anyone to strike out blindly, and hurt someone without intending to do so. Please stay with us. Do not leave us thinking that you cannot handle a misadventure, a mis-spoken sentence.

God be with you.

[dstar]

One mistake under extreme stress does not make it necessary to leave.
I think you need all us to share your hard time,just talk and you know you is not alone.
I work all my life as medical proffesional and i know what i am talking about. Sincerely Dstar /Mikhail/

[Bramela]

Wendy, I did read your first thread. I now understand.I have a daughter who is a beautiful woman, who has been diagnosed with MS. She is now almost totally blind and has many other problems. It is difficult to live with, but I would not have it any other way.I mean, what do we do? Run away from it? She is our daughter, and out of love you make the best of it.

But as you say you felt like screaming, it really brings you down to earth with a thud, and I can identify with that. There are days when I just wonder what life is all about.

So I am happy for you that things worked out OK. You have my best wishes along with full understanding.