Thank you everybody for your free assistance during holydays
@ Rburgoss, kerrowdown: I'll do the big reset, i think it's a software failure rather than contacts, they seems ok. Btw, i'll do some snow shots today, so we'll see next week. Maybe it's possibile to overwrite the firmware (already updated to the latest version?
P.s. option #5 made my day
@ Flyer: you got it! Reading your message i noticed that with A setting the iris won't stop down either shooting and with DOF preview: i went out to do some shots in manual mode and it works very fine for a broken camera

The massive overexposure with flash is now explained too. UPDATE: Simply the body displays the aperture but the lens is not recognized in A mode. Now, how to clean contacts?