I have both, and I think the DA*55 is better. Both are very sharp but the 55 has better contrast, rendering, bokeh, faster and more accurate AF.
The only advantage the 43 has over the 55 is size,af speed and better flare resistance.
The 43 only has a 8 aperture blade iris, which turns OOF highlights into ugly hexagons once you start stopping down.
The 55 on the other hand has 9 rounded blades, and keeps OOF highlights circular even when stopping down( to a degree).
My copy had bf issues too, but the in-body adjustment feature was able to correct it. Its a stellar lens, try another copy
Put it this way, if my entire kit was stolen I'd replace the 55 first and the 43 would be replaced last.