Not to jack your thread
I am in a very similar situation right now. I'm looking at portraits, street candids and the occasional wedding. BUT also (being a proud daddy) I am gonna do a lot of photos chasing around the kids at home and abroad.
The DA* 50-135 seems to be legendary even with the SDM issues people love it, my main concern is if the SDM AF will be too slow while chasing the younglings. I've seen stuff suggesting the Sigma 50-250 HSM as the AF is crazy fast but people say you loose a little in IQ... IQ is crazy important to me and sometimes i feel like when people say "only loose a little" they are trying to make themselves feel better about their decision.
The Tammy 70-200 also gets a lot of love around here too but I think that may be a little long for personal use and the additional heft doesn't seem worth it.
p.s. Tomorrow the DA* 50-135 will be down to $825 after instant rebate!