Don't feel you need to spend money, when investing time in better technique, or a better understanding of your current gear will improve your results.
I have been slowly learning portrait photography, it's more than just the lens used, to be sure, and it's not all about "wide open" apertures nor bokeh, either. Unless, you, your camera and the subject are all holding still, a slightly narrower aperture will give you enough DOF to isolate the subject but blur soften the background.
As the lens you own, the DA 40 XS will work well.
These examples the closest thing I have to shareable portraits and are taken at f5.6
This
And this
IF you feel you must buy another lensthe DA 70mm is a great choice, great results, usually available here in the PF marketplace at a very affordable price, often under $300, and compact, which is something I prize very highly. Now that I own a KP, I will intend purchase one in the near future.
I own the FA 77mm and have used it on APS-C and the K-1. Dollar for dollar, it's the best available choice for portrait lens, which you can often find here on PF for about $600.