get some RC paper for starters, it is easier to handle and takes much less washing (time and water). Glossy RC is glossy without special drying (fiber requires that). "Air-dried" glossy fibre has a similar sheen to pearl (Ilford medium sheen surface). Glossy makes your blacks look stronger and images sharper. I personally don't like it, mostly due to the reflections you also get.
Fiber paper has numerous issues to deal with however people still use it because of two factors, firstly it's more archival when correctly processed and secondly, (generally) looks better! It needs a lot more washing, even when using 'hypo clear' to speed that up and doesn't dry flat which can cause extra steps (dry mounting etc) to display it.
I don't think Rodinal and 400 speed films are a great combo unless your after the grain you'll get although some people swear by them. APX100 in Rodinal always appealed to me. You probably want a one-shot liquid developer but I tend to use XTOL so can't suggest anything specific. I do keep Ilford LC29 which I like (has good opened bottle shelf-life) and have some Rodinal... it lasts forever!. Use to use Ilfosol but that had a terrible open-bottle lifespan. There's a new version out, Ilfosol 3, but I don't know what it's like. Another option might be HC-110. For paper, get something like Ilford Multigrade Paper developer.
For film I don't use stop-bath... just two water rinses. I use indicator stop bath for prints (changes colour when it looses it's efectiveness). Fixer is the same for film and paper but mixed at different dilutions. I use Ilford Rapid Fixer but any brand works.
As good as this site is, for film processing & printing there are much better places.... have a look at
www.apug.org and the B&W forums at photo.net (
B&W Processing and film forum from Photo.net &
Black and White Photography printing and finishing forum from Photo.net ). At this point your probably best to get hold of a basic darkroom book. Much easier to have at your side. The Ilford site has a good series of pages on the subject too.
Cheers, Nige