As far as getting the FF looks goes, or great sharp shots, with crushed out backgrounds goes, it's much of a function of choosing location and how you shoot. F/stop is one thing tha determines the background bokeh, but the other, and possible bigger one, is subject-to-background distance. You can really get a lot done by choose locations where there's a lot of depth behind you subject, and allowing it all to just fall off into oblivion. I just started thread sharing
some yoga images I shot in a daffodil field. I was able to obtain a all the DOF fallof I wanted with the 200/2.8 just by shooting against a deep scene, and standing pretty far from the subject. And thanks to the telephoto compression, it doesn't look like the scene is that deep. From me to her is probably about 75 feet, and from her to the background is probably another 50. I think a lot of times, since telephotos make backgrounds look much closer, people get fooled into thinking they are. Then when you head out to shoot, and setup what you thought you saw, you get frustrated at how in focus the BG is. But by moving a lot further off the BG than you thought, you can achieve surprising results.
But the real issue is much less about format, FF vs aps-c, and is much more about lens options. Sensor format does matter and FF does have an advantage in that respect. But lens selection is a much bigger issue for us Pentax shooters. When I have the same lens options as FF'ers, I'm totally satisfied with the amount of DOF I can achieve (50/1.4, 200/2.8...). But the real issue is the amount of very vast lenses, generally associated with FF, or FF systems, that we don't have. Like 24/1.4, 50/1.2, 85/1.2, 135/2, 200/2, 300/2.8 and so on. If I could have those lenses, I would be completely happy shooting with aps-c. The DOF disadvantage we have due to the smaller format is much less considerable than the disadvantage of not having access to an array of fast primes. I think very high on Pentax's list of things to make should be something to the tune of 20/1.8, 30/1.4, 135/1.8 and 500/4. As much as there is a decent list of things that we all like to pine after from the other systems, as a professional shooter, the thing I miss the most, is the selection of fast primes. The Pentax DA* zooms are absolutely top notch and can rival anything else out there. The few DA* primes are great, but there just aren't enough of them. Especially with the rise in DSLR film making, fast primes are %50 of the attraction to everyone. Even if Pentax straightened things out with manual video controls and more frame rate options, I think film makers would still pass it up due to the lack of fast primes.
Cheers,
Ben