Trishytee, no need to prove your photographic credentials
plenty of great shots in your Flickr account there. Flash does have a habit of turning even very quite experienced photographers brains to mush, so you're in good company with that. I wrote my Guide to Pentax flash precisely because a lot of this stuff is not something that can be just 'picked up' .... but most of my general photography and flash knowledge came from reading books on the subjects ... and loads and loads of books!! (On the subject of books, I'd recommend Neil van Niekerk's 'Off-Camera Flash' book, very good for this sort of scenario. He's no HSS advocate though, so I just ignored him on that bit
I think the real soul destroyer for you was that session with the softbox salesman. Clearly he didn't understand how the equipment worked and what was possible, so how could the student be expected to ?? If he has taken those great shots you refer to, then there must be some basic differences to how you're setting yours up ..... again I would say that
your distance from softbox to subject is too large for that size softbox ..... that small box might work for a head and shoulders right up close, but for your beach scenario you need it bigger (60x60cm would be a minimum I think, and then probably only covering the top half of the model) and
ALSO CLOSER. If you are to get a nice soft light then that's what has to happen. Same with the teddy shots.
Its difficult on a forum, as we don' t get any visual feedback of your responses as you're reading, so it can be easy to think you're not 'listening'..... if you made a mention of the points that people have posted and said how you felt about it that would help ..... for example, I've twice pointed you to my 'Pentax & Cactus Multi-Flash HSS Demo' thread but you haven't fed back on that, so I don't know if you have missed it, or you're not interested
(Here's a link to it anyway .....
https://www.pentaxforums.com/forums/125-flashes-lighting-studio/311128-pentax...-hss-demo.html )
If you take a look there you will see that in order to get soft directional light on the Teddy I had my flashes very close to the subject. This also has the benefit of needing less power, so faster recycling and longer battery life, both good things on an outdoors shoot. Now I understand that you don't have the Cactus flash, but many of the principles are the same, especially the ambient and flash balancing procedures.
On your beach shots, unfortunately even though you saw your Yongnuo flash light up, because it cannot work in 'HSS mode' then its single flash burst will not have illuminated the whole frame. You may not notice this unless you carried out tests with only one flash on at a time. That's something I recommend very strongly when setting up two or more flashes .... check the effect of each individually on the subject, in order to create the exact balance of light you want.
Keep at it .... I don't think there's any better place for Pentax-specific flash guidance than right here at PF!