First of all, if the flash is a non-dedicated one, then all you can do is use manual settings.
You can change your camera settings like..set the lowest ISO, then set your aperture setting to the smallest openings.
Also, find out if the flash has lower settings like 1/4 power or 1/2..etc.
You can play with all those variable settings.
If you have already set the lowest ISO (ISO 100), and the smallest aperture setting (f22 or f32, depending on your lens) and the flash has now low power settings and you still get washed out images, then your last resort would be to use a diffuser to reduce the light falling on your subject.
Oh yeah, you can use ND filters too on your lens if need be.
If none of those still work..oh well..I would try to find another flash..but let's hope it doesn't come to that.