It's these early PK-A/R mounts that can have the problematic ricoh pin IMO, almost all later ones have a ball, rather than a pin, that doesn't catch.
Originally posted by robgski Make sure the aperture ring is not set to the "A" setting.
+1, it's in "A" position that the pin is extended out.
Originally posted by robgski press the release button and gently twist the lens loose.
You can reasonably safely use a judicious amount of rotational force.. and "wiggling" might help. The danger is that you unintentionally tilt/lever the lens and start strippng camera side mount attachment screws out of their (plastic!) threads.