You know the FBI could knock on my door tomorrow and I would cheerfully answer any questions they might have on the subject. I have nothing to hide on that score. (Where I get my TV shows from that's another story, cough, laugh.) For the record the reason I know so much is because I spent a decade taking care of kids. I've been the nanny on the playground watching over my kids. I've seen people I don't know, a lot of them men taking pics and I didn't know why. It made me uncomfortable sometimes and I know my parents that I worked for didn't like that. I've seen them get angry over it and I get why.
I know some of you won't agree with my position on this. I respect that, but I have to disagree. I'm sorry, I don't mean to tick some of you off, but that is my stance on this, kids (and manners) first, my rights later. It's not all things, just kids. I'd happily challenge anyone who told I couldn't photograph a bridge or something like. About the only other exception that I can think of to that would be a military installation, and again, it's a matter of safety. I can respect them not wanting me to go there. Not if it might lead to the death of a soldier. It might be accidental, but stuff gets on the news every day that shouldn't be shown. It bothers me. I worry about the folks overseas. Sometimes these days I think we show too much with all our photographs, social media, and tabloid news...
Paranoia? Maybe, but there are a lot of bad people out there, more than you might think, and yes, some of them happen to be female, though statistically speaking there are a lot more male offenders out there with cameras than female probably, but yeah, I'd ask and I'm happy to be asked actually. Shows me a parent actually gives a f- about their kids. I'd rather they ask than not, seriously. I've been asked, sure, but usually I stop that by asking first. I'm entirely open about what I am doing and I usually get a release if I can and give the parents the photos. I'm polite as heck and if they don't want me to go there I will not.
I hate talking about this but FYI, I was touched and probably nearly raped twice as a kid. Once by someone who was virtually a stranger to us, a new babysitter's husband, and once by the son of some really close family friends. My Mom fortunately for me got what I was trying to tell her both times and did something about it before it got to that point, but still I got touched. Neither guy was prosecuted though and that really haunts me the idea of what they might be doing now, but I have no idea of where they are or how to even proceed about doing something about it. It ticks me off to this day and I'm talking a lot of years ago.
I guess it's those experiences that make me so suspicious and protective of children, parents and their rights to protect said children. I was not the only person I met growing up who was messed with that way. Several of my close friends also had similar incidents in their backgrounds. If in a group of say 6 girls 4 can honestly say they had childhood experiences like that, and mean it, then how careful can we really be? My point is civil liberties can't always be upheld so easily in situations like these.
As a photographer I want to be fiercely protective of my freedom to shoot. I want to be treated as innocent before guilty, but as a person who was touched inappropriately I shudder to think of what might happen if parents feel too embarrassed to ask. Hang civil liberties and being polite. If it saves one kid from being in a situation like the one I was in, from having something like that happen to them? I don't care if someone asks, or if I can't photograph something I want to. Let them.
One kid hurt is too many for me.
Note: In the posts above you all are jumping all over me, but again, and I reiterate here, I ASK. I get permission and that is what makes it "okay." I don't act like some stranger. They get my contact info, photos if they want them. I don't shoot if they object. I act like a responsible photographer, not like a creep. Big difference, okay? And I am fully aware that most of those creeps are working a lot closer to me and their targets than some random guy in the park. But some of them do linger at playgrounds. I've seen that and you cannot be too careful, sorry. Some of you may disagree. Okay, but this is how I feel. Roast me if you feel you must, but at least I am open about it. I'm saying this is the line and I don't cross it even if my civil liberties do get trampled a bit.
Last edited by magkelly; 09-30-2011 at 05:06 PM.