I recently covered a wedding and had the worst experience ever:
Complete lack of respect - and I mean that literally.
Tons of people wanted to take their own photographs. Mostly cellphone users = they crowded up very close. Typical working space at key moments incl. group shots were 1-2 meters while rubbing elbows and shoulders.
No matter how few or many I tried to photograph, someone else always jumped in.. and one more.. and one more. This led to some mis-fires ie. not a single shot taken because the group was never finished before it dissolved itself (by added help from the by-standing cell-phone shooters, who naturally just clicked away no matter how the group looked - so much for me being there at the wedding).
I repeatedly expressed my worries and kindly asked people to respect what I was doing but to no vain. Instead some got angry with me and later deliberately walked past in front of the cam, while I was attempting group or couple shots.
I told all this to the person I was in contact with during the day, and he understood - he tried and tried but he too failed.
There was a videographer there as well and I had few words with him before guests started to arrive, to introduce myself, let him know how I prefer to work, and also to asked how he works, so I too could respect his ways as well. He seemed to get offended by it and assured me he had done tons and tons of weddings and is fully routined with working alongside with photographers. That's was a huge lie or his definition was entirely different. He completely ignored what I had wished for and when we did the formal group/family shots, *he* got angry with me.
For instance, I set up for *the* family shot. Shuffled people around so the group would look nicer. Moved trash away from the floor etc. etc. and when I stepped away to take a shot, the videographer tells *me* to step aside and in a nasty tone. Like hell I was going to make him ruin the shot I just set up for. I really felt like slapping him several times during the day.
And what did he do with every single group? Pan across all faces. Seriously? Why not just use a photo and zoom in on that and pan - it's almost as lifeless as whatever you are trying :/
When the couple arrived (each by them selfs and their own families), I had asked for few clean long-focal shots. I got none. The videographer was right up their faces all the way from car, entrance and to where they were supposed to sit.
I also told my contact person that I can't deliver what the couple is expecting. There were no point in trying, since there were so many issues. It wasn't hard working conditions. It was impossible working conditions.
Oh, and whenever I did get to photograph, the groups heads were turned all over the place - the hell they are since i have 100 cellphones besides me.
People just simply didn't get the single point that with so many cameras, non is ending up with anything good.
Oh and the place the reception was held at - I'm amazed by the lack of their lack of professionalism and service level. Music was playing all the time and often so loud that I couldn't hear my own thoughts, let alone communicate with whomever I was attempting to photograph. Communication developed into sign language. They also kicked the final guests (family members) out 1½h earlier than what the couple had booked for!
Most of the guest had already left by the end of the day and this was when I could shine. I now had peace and room to do *my* stuff and did some fancy shots with the couple. Ironically the remainder of the people loved them (why couldn't they figure this out early since i was *hired* for this, and give me the space I needed throughout the day?! :/ ). So much so that everyone wanted to have their turns, from young to old. Fine.. but then the place kicked us out. I had to pack my gear in complete darkness with only some light shining through the window. I asked the organizer to turn it back on - twice to make sure he heard me, and he did, but he asked me to move my stuff outside where there is light. I'm pretty sure I'm going to advice every single person I talk to from now on, not to use that place. Well done.
I was frustrated but had a smile on my face all day - because how I appear to be affects who I photograph. But both the videographer and the organizer at the places were idiots. The videographer started to yell at people at one point (yah, it was hard for him too, but don't yell, you moron).
I've had challenging weddings before, but this tops them all, combined, by far! I've had issues with multiple Uncle Bob types at the same wedding, but nothing that even comes close to this. Was the wedding *that* special? Not at all. What I experienced and witnessed was lack of civilized behavior from many many people, including professionals.
So yah, I'm pissed. I have some good shots, but I do not have "my kind of shots". The kind the couple hired me for. I feel bad about it on their behalf, but I do not for a second feel I failed anyone, which otherwise is something I can easily do.
What would you have done? I feel I tried everything I could - almost everything. One last option that I see would be to turn off the music, grab everyone attention by yelling, preferably using a mic, and telling people to shove their phones - in a kinder way. But I'm not too fond of that option and honestly, I don't think it would have helped.
Now I'm actually a bit calmer after having written all this
Last edited by Zafar Iqbal; 11-04-2013 at 12:34 AM.
Reason: typos and stuff