Find the shooters who have been around since the film days, they always seem to have a more traditional, timeless style. I really enjoy that style personally!
Around here we get a lot of the high-key style wedding shooters and not enough of the traditional, warm toned shooters.
The problem is... those warmer, traditional, non-princessy shooters charge...and charge a lot! $4000+ is the average around here for that style. I'm not sure what the budget is on a photographer, but Id suggest looking at the upper echelon to see what they offer and if they fit her wants/needs.
The entry level price point shoot and burners are all the same... very similar styles, very similar packages.... you could probably hire 5 of them and get exactly the same results....
edit, didn't read the threat. I see you hired exactly what I recommended!