Wife Started Menopause--Easiest Way to Kill Myself?

Ira · 12-11-2010, 05:18 PM

I'm open to suggestions, because this is efffin ridiculous.

If I kill her, I go to jail. But if I kill myself, everyone will be happy.

VF-19 · 12-11-2010, 05:36 PM

Start building plastic models? At least it'll keep you out of the room...

casil403 · 12-11-2010, 06:05 PM - **1 Like**

Oh.......as someone who is in the beginning stages of it I am sorry Ira for you and for her. I can tell you it is real and not made up.
If it is any help or consolation to you at all, please know that and I can tell you that your wife does not want to be this way or act like this anymore than you want her to....She cannot help it and she feels bad with what she is putting you and everybody else through. And she hates it as well.
I know what she is going through and I can tell you that it is really frustrating to feel like you are going crazy a lot of the time....it is how I feel many days.

I am so glad I am single right now as I would not want to put this on anybody. There are ways to deal with this medically if she is having difficulty with it but the only thing you can do is just be as supportive and as gentle on her as you can be and understand that it is not her, it is hormones (they are surging and depleting right now instead of coming in one steady stream) that are physically and mentally affecting her right now.

paugie · 12-11-2010, 07:06 PM

I'd like to thank casil for the very appropriate, kind and helpful post. It is relevant not only to this thread but to many others who are part of a family where a member is going through this difficult time.
I'd like to add that the difficulties will end and the relationship will become better. I know ours did. I'm 56 and my wife is 58.

ve2vfd · 12-11-2010, 07:49 PM

Just tell her: "Yes, those jeans DO make you look fat!" the next time she asks... she'll suicide you

But seriously, there isn't much you can do about it. Hormonal imbalance is a roller coaster ride. May I suggest lots of nodding and smiling?

Pat

Daniel_r · 12-11-2010, 08:47 PM

I'm with Pat on this one.
Lots of support and stay out of the way when it gets tense.

Todd Adamson · 12-11-2010, 08:49 PM

Maybe have her join this forum and review your threads?

Todd Adamson · 12-11-2010, 08:49 PM

Originally posted by ve2vfd

May I suggest lots of nodding and smiling?

That's what I do anyway. Sooo...not sure what I'll do when this hapens to me...

dgaies · 12-11-2010, 09:34 PM

Originally posted by ve2vfd

Just tell her: "Yes, those jeans DO make you look fat!" the next time she asks... she'll suicide you

That may or may not work. About 6-7 years ago my wife was trying on jeans and asked me the "do these jeans make me look fat question". In my attempt at humor, I answered her, "No, the jeans don't make you look fat... it's the fat that makes you look fat".

The fact that I'm still alive (and married) suggest that you might not get want you want (death) by answering "yes".

Phil1 · 12-11-2010, 10:46 PM

There is a wine for that whine.

JohnBee · 12-11-2010, 11:27 PM

Originally posted by Ira

... But if I kill myself, everyone will be happy.

Everyone wants you dead?

Anyways, find a hobby that allows you to leave the house.
Duh! wait a minute...

I think the answer is pretty obvious don't you?
I also do woodworking in my shop, which has proved to a great secondary hobby to photography.

And then of course there is always prayer

JACOBY · 12-12-2010, 02:22 AM

I just stay downstairs in the game room and yes the dog even goes with me I guess he understands.

Class A · 12-12-2010, 04:13 AM

Originally posted by Ira

But if I kill myself, everyone will be happy.

Nah, we'd miss you (a little).

Never thought I'd ever see the combination of "IRA" and "seeking advice for how to kill"...

Ira · 12-12-2010, 06:26 AM

Thanks for the supportive words, everyone.

I saw an All In The Family episode about this years ago, but never thought it would happen to me.

mel · 12-12-2010, 06:37 AM

Originally posted by Ira

Thanks for the supportive words, everyone.

I saw an All In The Family episode about this years ago, but never thought it would happen to me.

It's happening to YOU??? Uh, no, sorry. It's happening to HER. You're watching. I say if you can't help then get out of the way

12-11-2010, 05:18 PM	#1
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12-11-2010, 05:36 PM	#2
VF-19 Veteran Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Ottawa Posts: 364	Start building plastic models? At least it'll keep you out of the room...

12-11-2010, 06:05 PM - 1 Like	#3
casil403 Veteran Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Calgary AB Photos: Gallery Posts: 1,170	Oh.......as someone who is in the beginning stages of it I am sorry Ira for you and for her. I can tell you it is real and not made up. If it is any help or consolation to you at all, please know that and I can tell you that your wife does not want to be this way or act like this anymore than you want her to....She cannot help it and she feels bad with what she is putting you and everybody else through. And she hates it as well. I know what she is going through and I can tell you that it is really frustrating to feel like you are going crazy a lot of the time....it is how I feel many days. I am so glad I am single right now as I would not want to put this on anybody. There are ways to deal with this medically if she is having difficulty with it but the only thing you can do is just be as supportive and as gentle on her as you can be and understand that it is not her, it is hormones (they are surging and depleting right now instead of coming in one steady stream) that are physically and mentally affecting her right now.

12-11-2010, 07:06 PM	#4
paugie Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Quezon City, Philippines Photos: Gallery \| Albums Posts: 168	I'd like to thank casil for the very appropriate, kind and helpful post. It is relevant not only to this thread but to many others who are part of a family where a member is going through this difficult time. I'd like to add that the difficulties will end and the relationship will become better. I know ours did. I'm 56 and my wife is 58.

12-11-2010, 07:49 PM	#5
ve2vfd Veteran Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Montreal, Canada Photos: Gallery Posts: 2,433	Just tell her: "Yes, those jeans DO make you look fat!" the next time she asks... she'll suicide you But seriously, there isn't much you can do about it. Hormonal imbalance is a roller coaster ride. May I suggest lots of nodding and smiling? Pat

12-11-2010, 08:47 PM	#6
Daniel_r Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Saskatchewan Posts: 108	I'm with Pat on this one. Lots of support and stay out of the way when it gets tense.

12-11-2010, 08:49 PM	#7
Todd Adamson Veteran Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Iowa Posts: 722	Maybe have her join this forum and review your threads?

12-11-2010, 08:49 PM	#8
Todd Adamson Veteran Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Iowa Posts: 722	Originally posted by ve2vfd May I suggest lots of nodding and smiling? That's what I do anyway. Sooo...not sure what I'll do when this hapens to me...

12-11-2010, 09:34 PM	#9
dgaies Veteran Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Maryland / Washington DC Posts: 3,917	Originally posted by ve2vfd Just tell her: "Yes, those jeans DO make you look fat!" the next time she asks... she'll suicide you That may or may not work. About 6-7 years ago my wife was trying on jeans and asked me the "do these jeans make me look fat question". In my attempt at humor, I answered her, "No, the jeans don't make you look fat... it's the fat that makes you look fat". The fact that I'm still alive (and married) suggest that you might not get want you want (death) by answering "yes".

12-11-2010, 10:46 PM	#10
Phil1 Inactive Account Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: SoCal Posts: 1,292	There is a wine for that whine.

12-11-2010, 11:27 PM	#11
JohnBee Veteran Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Newrfoundland Photos: Albums Posts: 4,667	Originally posted by Ira ... But if I kill myself, everyone will be happy. Everyone wants you dead? Anyways, find a hobby that allows you to leave the house. Duh! wait a minute... I think the answer is pretty obvious don't you? I also do woodworking in my shop, which has proved to a great secondary hobby to photography. And then of course there is always prayer

12-12-2010, 02:22 AM	#12
JACOBY Veteran Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: PGH PENNA Posts: 340	I just stay downstairs in the game room and yes the dog even goes with me I guess he understands.

12-12-2010, 04:13 AM	#13
Class A Pentaxian Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Wellington, New Zealand Posts: 11,251	Originally posted by Ira But if I kill myself, everyone will be happy. Nah, we'd miss you (a little). Never thought I'd ever see the combination of "IRA" and "seeking advice for how to kill"...

12-12-2010, 06:26 AM	#14
Ira Inactive Account Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Coral Springs, FL Photos: Gallery \| Albums Posts: 5,216 Original Poster	Thanks for the supportive words, everyone. I saw an All In The Family episode about this years ago, but never thought it would happen to me.

12-12-2010, 06:37 AM	#15
mel Veteran Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Virginia Photos: Gallery \| Albums Posts: 2,531	Originally posted by Ira Thanks for the supportive words, everyone. I saw an All In The Family episode about this years ago, but never thought it would happen to me. It's happening to YOU??? Uh, no, sorry. It's happening to HER. You're watching. I say if you can't help then get out of the way