One of the reasons monotheists and atheists have such conflict is, of course, the literal-mindedness that can be found in both: science is, of course, a *means* of finding out about the material world, and 'book-religion' claims to tell us about the material world by claiming its own myths are 'special,' ..ie, 'literally true' to one extent or another.
The simple fact is, of course, that we are not entirely-objective creatures. We have more faculties than just the logical/literalistic.
Some of both atheists and monotheists tend to *overstep* when claiming some things apply outside their own modalities, or that their modalities somehow constrain the actual world: for instance, claiming some things are 'supernatural' or 'unnatural,' respectively tends to be just an a priori assertion that those modalities limit the world and human experiences.
They're also both tending to be from a point of view of 'Is this literally true or not' ...whether they've softened that position with various philisophical caveats or merely insist they know the one truth or even define the 'odds,' ...and tend to muddle up questions of what the paranormal is with the theological/philosophical literalisms in the first place.
It tends to lead to an all-or-nothing thinking that doesn't really serve reason very well in these regards. The conscious mind tends to *like* absolutes, but that itself has to do with one's emotions and instincts and all, too. ...being blind to that doesn't help. It's why certain believers are so scared of ghosts, and why it happens fairly often in my experience that hard-materialist atheists might see a ghost or something and suddenly think everything 'paranormal' they heard must in fact be 'true.' (At least temporarily.. Denial tends to set in later, and I think it may well be this very thing that a lot of atheists are so *afraid* of about any possibility of 'the paranormal' or Spirit or anything like that: they may well feel that kind of pressure behind the dam, so to speak, and fear any 'crack' would lead to chaos: this is actually a similar dynamic to how religious absolutisms set people and societies up for 'moral panic' phenomena. )
Me, I've been living with 'non-ordinary' stuff all my life, (Even if for a while there I somewhat compartmentalized a lot of it. ) For me, total 'disbelief' would be pretty irrational, actually. (As I touched on, before, 'extraordinary proof' is something one can observe for oneself and indeed with other people: such proof you can carry away and hand to a peer-reviewed journal is something of another matter: where this bears on reason, that's about what *claims* one makes based on some things: I compare it to things once thought mythical, like 'rogue waves' and the like: considered old sailor's tales simply because of where the info came from and the rarity of them being observed, and science itself not having a model for how that could happen. But there they are. ) ...anyway, that 'Non-ordinary stuff' is something that has certainly impressed a lot of people individually. ...and it certainly doesn't mean my *Conclusions* about everything are total Divine revelation, but it is pretty interesting how it *fits* with both the generalities and details about what people who've specialized in this stuff across cultures and times seemed to derive. Both in general scheme and quite often obscure specifics. Then there's just the pure question of *information* about it.
Something's sure going on. And it's about more than existential claims of one kind or another, then setting 'feelings' and rituals against 'logic and materialism' in a context of 'proving' literalism.
When the conflict is really about the 'authority' of a very *particular* God, for instance, people still exclude all other possibilities, and that's what the 'arguments' are kind of designed to do. Go nowhere, but keep that 'argument' central to people's consciousness... As opposed to a lot of other things.