Need help asking a cute girl to be my partner in studio lighting class.

sam-joseph · 09-05-2012, 05:20 PM

I reckon the right approach is to make an approach. Don't shy away and then for the next 30 years, wonder what might have been.
But maybe that's just me........

Regards

reeftool · 09-06-2012, 10:25 PM

Originally posted by stormtech

Exactly - and just be yourself!

Yep. Just introduce yourself (if that's necessary) and ask her.

LeDave · 09-07-2012, 08:29 AM

You guys I will update once that class hits again, which is Wednesday. I am hoping she will say yes to be my partner and laugh about the joke.

It's either:

A. Hi, this is crazy, but I just met you, and my last partner is psychotic. So work with me maybe? (Kind of hypocritical since I am taking anti-psychotics, but you get the idea =P)

B. Hi, my last partner was a psychopath, I was hoping you can save me by partnering up next time?

altopiet · 09-07-2012, 08:48 AM

Originally posted by Skullsroad

If you're just trying to get her to be your partner and not your girlfriend

Hmmmm... I think your'e onto something here...

glanglois · 09-07-2012, 04:46 PM

I don't see anything wrong with: "Hey, I'm Dave. How do you think this class is going?" Any reasonable response can be followed with "Can we partner on this next assignment?" If she saw the earlier event, she'd understand that you have at least one reason for the request. If she's used a mirror lately, she can probably think of another. In any case, you can allow her to make the inferences. No need to spell it out. Anything that explicitly compares her to an unstable guy with anger management issues may not be seen as much of a compliment, if you get my drift ....

OTOH, if your initial question does not get a reasonable response, like she smacks you upside the head with her tripod, you may check into how to get your fees back - it's just not your class.

Colbyt · 09-07-2012, 04:52 PM

Just do it! Many years ago I knew a really homely guy who always had a sharp date for the weekend. When questioned he said (and I am cleaning this up), "I just say Hi and I think your are a doll. I would like to take you to dinner and then .................. your brains out." He said he got his faced slapped 9.8 times out of ten but the .2 was a sure thing.

And then the power sales presentation says they don't really mean no until they have said it 7 times.

So just do it. A no won't kill you.

Edit: I want to be clear the power sales presentation part only applies to asking for a date and not anything else. I just don't want anyone to misunderstand.

bossa · 09-07-2012, 05:13 PM

Re' the video: Thanks for the eggsplanation but the yoke at the end was a little too free range for me. ;-)

bossa · 09-07-2012, 05:17 PM

Re asking the 'cute' girl to partner in lighting class: . The word 'cute' does give away your real motivations.. no wonder you're scared ;-)

LeDave · 09-07-2012, 05:35 PM

You guys I got the perfect plan. I am writing a note card that says Hey, I just met you, and this is crazy, but my last partner was a psychotic. So work with me, maybe? I am going to sit down next to her when class starts and hand her the note.

stormtech · 09-07-2012, 05:51 PM

A note.....realy? Are we talking about Junior High School here?

D0n · 09-07-2012, 05:52 PM - **1 Like**

nail her first. you can ask pretty much anything at that point...

**ChrisPlatt** · 09-07-2012, 05:59 PM - **2 Likes**

These look more like suggestions for pickup lines here.
Are you more interested in dating her or just partnering in class?

IMO you are getting way ahead of yourself on this.
What if she turns you down? How will you feel for rest of your class sessions?
What is she tells your former partner you called him a psychotic?

IMO an honest, direct unembellished approach works best with anyone worthwhile.
How about "Can we partner for this or an upcoming class session?"
No explanations, no stories, no clever lines are necessary.

Chris

kenafein · 09-07-2012, 06:11 PM

Originally posted by LeDave

You guys I got the perfect plan. I am writing a note card that says Hey, I just met you, and this is crazy, but my last partner was a psychotic. So work with me, maybe? I am going to sit down next to her when class starts and hand her the note.

Maybe I'm old, but if it's pop culture, and I know anything about it, it means it's been played. Be original and funny if/when you can, but always be genuine. Play it cool man, don't try so hard, she'll notice that you're trying to impress her. Just be yourself, you'll be less nervous that way. This is partners first, see where it goes later. Don't be too disappointed if she says no, for whatever reason, she may already have a partner she likes working with.

**ChrisPlatt** · 09-07-2012, 06:16 PM - **2 Likes**

You Tube

Chris

kenafein · 09-07-2012, 06:23 PM

Originally posted by ChrisPlatt

Flight of the Conchords-The Most Beautiful Girl In The Room - YouTube

Chris

New to me, that was great.

09-07-2012, 08:29 AM	#33
LeDave Veteran Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Minneapolis - St. Paul Photos: Gallery Posts: 3,067 Original Poster	You guys I will update once that class hits again, which is Wednesday. I am hoping she will say yes to be my partner and laugh about the joke. It's either: A. Hi, this is crazy, but I just met you, and my last partner is psychotic. So work with me maybe? (Kind of hypocritical since I am taking anti-psychotics, but you get the idea =P) B. Hi, my last partner was a psychopath, I was hoping you can save me by partnering up next time? Last edited by LeDave; 09-07-2012 at 08:38 AM.

09-07-2012, 04:46 PM	#35
glanglois Veteran Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Madison, Wis., USA Posts: 1,506	I don't see anything wrong with: "Hey, I'm Dave. How do you think this class is going?" Any reasonable response can be followed with "Can we partner on this next assignment?" If she saw the earlier event, she'd understand that you have at least one reason for the request. If she's used a mirror lately, she can probably think of another. In any case, you can allow her to make the inferences. No need to spell it out. Anything that explicitly compares her to an unstable guy with anger management issues may not be seen as much of a compliment, if you get my drift .... OTOH, if your initial question does not get a reasonable response, like she smacks you upside the head with her tripod, you may check into how to get your fees back - it's just not your class. Last edited by glanglois; 09-07-2012 at 05:00 PM.

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09-05-2012, 05:20 PM	#31
sam-joseph Veteran Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Newcastle, NSW, Australia Photos: Gallery Posts: 1,086	I reckon the right approach is to make an approach. Don't shy away and then for the next 30 years, wonder what might have been. But maybe that's just me........ Regards

09-06-2012, 10:25 PM	#32
reeftool Pentaxian Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Upstate New York Photos: Gallery \| Albums Posts: 9,553	Originally posted by stormtech Exactly - and just be yourself! Yep. Just introduce yourself (if that's necessary) and ask her.

09-07-2012, 08:48 AM	#34
altopiet Veteran Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: The Gem of the Karoo, South Africa Photos: Gallery \| Albums Posts: 2,307	Originally posted by Skullsroad If you're just trying to get her to be your partner and not your girlfriend Hmmmm... I think your'e onto something here...

09-07-2012, 04:52 PM	#36
Colbyt Veteran Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Central Kentucky Photos: Gallery \| Albums Posts: 1,417	Just do it! Many years ago I knew a really homely guy who always had a sharp date for the weekend. When questioned he said (and I am cleaning this up), "I just say Hi and I think your are a doll. I would like to take you to dinner and then .................. your brains out." He said he got his faced slapped 9.8 times out of ten but the .2 was a sure thing. And then the power sales presentation says they don't really mean no until they have said it 7 times. So just do it. A no won't kill you. Edit: I want to be clear the power sales presentation part only applies to asking for a date and not anything else. I just don't want anyone to misunderstand.

09-07-2012, 05:13 PM	#37
bossa Veteran Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Adelaide Posts: 4,546	Re' the video: Thanks for the eggsplanation but the yoke at the end was a little too free range for me. ;-)

09-07-2012, 05:17 PM	#38
bossa Veteran Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Adelaide Posts: 4,546	Re asking the 'cute' girl to partner in lighting class: . The word 'cute' does give away your real motivations.. no wonder you're scared ;-)

09-07-2012, 05:35 PM	#39
LeDave Veteran Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Minneapolis - St. Paul Photos: Gallery Posts: 3,067 Original Poster	You guys I got the perfect plan. I am writing a note card that says Hey, I just met you, and this is crazy, but my last partner was a psychotic. So work with me, maybe? I am going to sit down next to her when class starts and hand her the note.

09-07-2012, 05:51 PM	#40
stormtech Veteran Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: In the boonies (NW Penna) Photos: Gallery \| Albums Posts: 5,744	A note.....realy? Are we talking about Junior High School here?

09-07-2012, 05:52 PM - 1 Like	#41
D0n Banned Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 530	nail her first. you can ask pretty much anything at that point...

09-07-2012, 05:59 PM - 2 Likes	#42
ChrisPlatt Site Supporter Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Rockaway Beach NYC Posts: 7,692	These look more like suggestions for pickup lines here. Are you more interested in dating her or just partnering in class? IMO you are getting way ahead of yourself on this. What if she turns you down? How will you feel for rest of your class sessions? What is she tells your former partner you called him a psychotic? IMO an honest, direct unembellished approach works best with anyone worthwhile. How about "Can we partner for this or an upcoming class session?" No explanations, no stories, no clever lines are necessary. Chris

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09-07-2012, 06:11 PM	#43
kenafein Veteran Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: Southern California Photos: Albums Posts: 4,082	Originally posted by LeDave You guys I got the perfect plan. I am writing a note card that says Hey, I just met you, and this is crazy, but my last partner was a psychotic. So work with me, maybe? I am going to sit down next to her when class starts and hand her the note. Maybe I'm old, but if it's pop culture, and I know anything about it, it means it's been played. Be original and funny if/when you can, but always be genuine. Play it cool man, don't try so hard, she'll notice that you're trying to impress her. Just be yourself, you'll be less nervous that way. This is partners first, see where it goes later. Don't be too disappointed if she says no, for whatever reason, she may already have a partner she likes working with.

09-07-2012, 06:23 PM	#45
kenafein Veteran Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: Southern California Photos: Albums Posts: 4,082	Originally posted by ChrisPlatt Flight of the Conchords-The Most Beautiful Girl In The Room - YouTube Chris New to me, that was great.