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04-29-2016, 02:43 PM   #1
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PF members not responding to PMs - a recent trend?

My annoyance levels are rising. Recently I have had numerous non communicators to PMs where there is clearly a conversation in train. This is not an isolated situation. Is anyone else experiencing this?

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QuoteOriginally posted by Wild Mark Quote
My annoyance levels are rising. Recently I have had numerous non communicators to PMs where there is clearly a conversation in train. This is not an isolated situation. Is anyone else experiencing this?
No. Eve members who should be asleep by dint of their location respond quickly.
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I have had numerous non communicators to PMs where there is clearly a conversation in train.
All conversations end sometime so eventually, if the conversation is via PM, someone is going to quit responding.
Perhaps I'm misunderstanding the topic?

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All conversations end sometime so eventually, if the conversation is via PM, someone is going to quit responding.
Perhaps I'm misunderstanding the topic?
Yes (misunderstanding). To explain, I might receive a PM from someone either in response to something I have for sale, or completely out of the blue for another reason. I respond in a timely manner then never a response, not even a thanks but no thanks/ 'ending' style PM (I am articulate enough to get the subtleties of such conversational transactions). Not the sort of behaviour I expected to experience here. It has been quite noticeable of late and numerous.

It is a frustrating experience and I wanted to air it rather than bottle up and stew

If I am alone then I will crawl back under my rock
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QuoteOriginally posted by Wild Mark Quote
Yes (misunderstanding). To explain, I might receive a PM from someone either in response to something I have for sale, or completely out of the blue for another reason. I respond in a timely manner then never a response, not even a thanks but no thanks/ 'ending' style PM (I am articulate enough to get the subtleties of such conversational transactions). Not the sort of behaviour I expected to experience here. It has been quite noticeable of late and numerous.

It is a frustrating experience and I wanted to air it rather than bottle up and stew

If I am alone then I will crawl back under my rock
Okay, got it; and yes, that would frustrate me too.
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I've not had that problem as of yet. Any PM's with other members are replied on both sides, until whatever the subject is, has been discussed to both our satisfaction. I've found the members responding or initiating PM's have been most cordial.

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Not a problem I've experienced,but people seem less polite these days as a generalisation.
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I've found the members responding or initiating PM's have been most cordial.
It is not as if PF members are not cordial. It just ends without a satisfactory end point. Perhaps I am alone in this experience

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but people seem less polite these days as a generalisation
Yes that might be an undercurrent theme orbiting my grievance but I was not going there - kind of a given unfortunately. Anyway, I plod on and perhaps develop a thicker skin.
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QuoteOriginally posted by Wild Mark Quote
It is not as if PF members are not cordial. It just ends without a satisfactory end point. Perhaps I am alone in this experience
I really don't know how two different people may arrive at a satisfactory end point, at the same time. Perhaps the other members felt this had been reached. Also, just a thought; have you given them enough time to respond? Different time tables, work, family, etc., may definitely play into not responding in a timely manner.

If I feel something has been left hanging, or unsettled, I wouldn't hesitate PM'ing them to clarify it.
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If I feel something has been left hanging, or unsettled, I wouldn't hesitate PM'ing them to clarify it.
Done that and still no response. I think I have left a week or so before starting to ponder.

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I must admit most of the people I have been conversing with have few PF posts under their belts. Perhaps they are vagrants?
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QuoteOriginally posted by csa Quote
I really don't know how two different people may arrive at a satisfactory end point, at the same time. Perhaps the other members felt this had been reached. Also, just a thought; have you given them enough time to respond? Different time tables, work, family, etc., may definitely play into not responding in a timely manner.

If I feel something has been left hanging, or unsettled, I wouldn't hesitate PM'ing them to clarify it.
FWIW, when I sense a PM conversation is complete I Reply 'TYVM' * without quoting the previous messages. Seems to help.

* Thank You Very Much.
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Cool, nice tip. I usually use an emoticon with language that indicates satisfaction.

In airing this experience I reflect on regular comments here re: evilbay (and the raft of dramas that unfold there) and I have to admit I have had far better PM conversations over ebay items than here. Perhaps that experience is adding to my puzzled disposition.
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I venture to suggest that a PM may be viewed as just that....a message to another.

Messages in the wider sense aren't sent with the expectation of a reply.
They're an alert, a 'heads up', a notice, and if the receiver does want to reply then the messages return can or may become the start of a conversation.

message = one way communication.
conversation = two way communication.
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QuoteOriginally posted by Wild Mark Quote
Anyway, I plod on and perhaps develop a thicker skin.

I haven't experienced this either Wild Mark, but some people just have a different attitude to communication I find. Some people are like " You hang up 1st, No, you hang up 1st, NO !! You hang up 1st !! " And others just hang up !!! No need to let it get under your skin mate, at the end of the day, you can only change yourself. Plenty of others here to talk to here.
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