Originally posted by seacapt Mornin' Rat, Well I do speak corsely at times and am definitately most comfortable in T-shirts but as far as the Biblical Values stuff goes ..... Thats up to you.
It is possible to disagree and maintain a level of civility.
So how ya doing today?
Ah, not so bad. I see Rupert's left another pile of BS for me this morning, (No, Rupert, you didn't 'catch me in a lie' on some other thread, (Hey, Rupert, on that 'other thread,' I showed how you were making two contradictory claims about me. That feeling of confusion you were getting doesn't mean 'RML is lying,' ...it means "Rupert potentially realizing he's *wrong.*" There's no 'paradox' to what I say if you aren't trying to prove your further belief 'RML must be lying' If I'm telling the truth, it certainly fits together just fine. I can be criticizing *your* claims about me without trying to 'convert ' you, and that would account for me not naming my own specific beliefs just fine. It's your *claims* which are inconsistent with each other.)
Anyway, Seacapt. I do agree that we can have disagreement with civility: in fact, that's kind of the point of this pluralistic American system. Too many of the 'Biblical values' crowd seek to *undermine* that civility, either by enforcing their ways on others, or trying to make the country ungovernable where they can't in the process.
The boorish and hateful behavior we see from these types certainly doesn't speak well of the 'values' they keep trying to enforce on others (And, yeah, it's ironic that the T-shirt wearing would 'traditionally' be considered 'indecent,' ...walking around in underwear, in fact. Not that I think there's anything inherently *wrong* with T-shirts, it's just ironic. ) Certainly, if you think I'm just supposed to 'choose a traditional lifestyle,' such abusive treatment in public and coercive treatment via government wouldn't make such a 'choice' very attractive, wouldn't you think?
You know, I'm supposed to live in denial of my own nature, desert my beloved partner of some eight years, lie about myself and *marry that abuse?* Seriously? (No wonder divorce rates are actually highest among conservative Evangelicals, I say,) ... I'm supposed to accept oppression, second-class status, and abusive defamations for the comfort of some blustering bigots?
These kinds of things are what *deny* us a civil discourse, never mind a civil society. The Right always treats people like me as some kind of 'zero sum' game: anything that hurts us is treated as good and necessary, whatever it is, anything that fails to harm us is seen as a loss for 'Christianity.' That's not a civil disagreement, that's organized oppression.
Certain Christians believe that something is being *taken from them* if others have simple *equality.* Think there's some kind of balance between their 'being offended if I have to look at you subhumans' ...and the brutalities and privations and injustices they want to use the government to validate, impose, and preserve.
The anger and frustration out there has its basis in the Right's own false promises, not the existence of civil rights or gay people or liberals or non-Christians, or science... and if 'you' got your way, it wouldn't make a single practical thing any better for the nation. The coarse and spurious attacks on those considered 'other' are simple *scapegoating.* Wedges used to prevent *we the people* from getting together, laying out some goals and our desires for a just and peaceful society, setting aside the ideological and cultural 'wars' and seeing what we can *make* out of what we've *got.*
We like a certain amount of capitalism, for instance. I like some capitalism just fine: but it won't *be* a capitalist democracy if *we, the people* don't have much of the *capital.* What we've got in the guise of 'free market capitalism' isn't a *free* market, it's a *plutocracy.* What we, the people, have, mostly, is *debt.* Even if we have a little pile of our own, it's not enough to 'compete' with big business, often enough. Big Business doesn't need to keep taking more and more as though it already owns an increasing share of our labors, whether directly or through taking most of those 'taxes' conservatives hate so much.... and using it to undermine our future and our own civil rights and human dignities.
Every year we let ourselves be divided by this incivility and denial and all, is another year someone is laughing all the way to the bank, and pointing at someone like my family, saying, 'Take it out on them.'
This mocking and abuse of the sick, of our black Congressmen, our gay ones... Our President, even.... Is symptomatic of these very same incivilities we see here. How I've been treated by certain people, invariably with certain Christianist ideologies, as soon as I stand up and say, 'Hey, you're premising a lot of human suffering on being *wrong* about an awful lot of people.'
Can't help but notice just how quickly certain people will make it their personal business to bully and defame, whatever the issue.... if they think they can get away with it. That's not helping anyone or anything, and what's more, if it can be done to me, ...next time they might turn around and do it to *you.* It could already be being done to someone you love, and probably is, actually.
This is why civility is important. Even simple *manners...* and by this I don't mean mere inhibition or genuflecture to hangups, but rather, real human respect... For each other as human beings and as free citizens. We won't get far with a representative form of government if we're so easily turned against each other.
There's a lot of people out here who are not only suffering from injustice and related damage *for no rational reason,* ...but who also are unable to contribute fully to society ...just for someone else's sense of religious comfort and supremacy.
As a nation, we simply can't afford to keep doing this: there are real problems that need addressing, and civility, equality, and justice should really be a no-brainer by now. It's wasteful. Of people, and of the diversity which is actually one of our nation's great strengths, not the liability some feel they can 'banish' through repression. Or shouting and 'praying' for real people to 'go away,' accept demonization, marginalization, disenfranchisement, and injustice in our own country.
Saying 'I religiously believe that you are horrible people who do horrible things' ...simply doesn't make these things *true* or give one the right to harm or defame others. It doesn't constitute reason or the rule of law or any of the good stuff we're supposed to enjoy here in the United States of America.
We seem to hear the same things from the same kinds of people every time a historically-marginalized minority has its turn to stand up as free and equal citizens under the promise of America. We don't *have* to go through it every darn time.
There are ways in which our nation and our world are clearly in desperate need of *healing,* not more 'war.' The faces change, but the attacks on our human equality and democracy itself... Don't. Neither does the *equality.* If we forsake progress on these American ideals, there's pretty much only one other way to go, and where that leads is never pretty.
So, civility.
Sorry bout the yet-another-lecture.