Originally posted by LFLee Can you teach a little here? you ask all of them before you take their pictures? What do you say ..."can I take your picture?" with 85mm lens, you probably have to run away again to take their picture once they agree...
I wanted to do that... but I afraid people think I am a pervert... Is so much different if the subject look into your way like you did instead of trying to secretly snap picture of people... will wearing a 'I am a photographer' t-shirt helps?
Lee
1. For most, male and female, I say "Excuse me, you mind if I take your portrait?" For younger people, I modify it to "Hey Guys" or "What's up Guys", for older, I use "Sir", "Maam". My experience is that it's not WHAT you say, but HOW you say it. You know, it is possible to tell someone they look terrible without insulting them. It's how you say it. Of course this would take extraordinary effort and attention to voice control and pitch, facial expression, eye contact, etc., but can be done. I've noticed that if I feel nervous, they too sense it, even though I'm trying to work through it. So i've learned to just approach them without thinking about it, almost like a friendly acquaintence. The fact that I'm using their portrait for a project i'm working on helps me tremendously. This project kind of naturally takes priority as I interact with people, makes my words and interactions more purposeful. They see this sense of purpose and formality and they too become influenced. They know they're doing it for a good reason. They manytimes ask me "why" for the picture and manytimes my humorous, mocking response is "why not" (how often does a young, talented, person like myself ask to take your portrait). I think people do naturally want to know why of everything, especially if it's unexpected. If I weren't working on this project, which at one point I wasn't while still taking strangers photographs, I didn't give them a reason, sometimes they agreed immediately and didn't seem to care. When they did, I told them "I have a new camera I'm testing out". To answer your "what if they think i'm perveted" question, if they agree after thinking you're perverted, then that's just more opportunity for you. I'm am perverted (depending on who you ask), I take more pictures of women because they're more pleasing to my eye than man, they just seem to make slightly better pictures, I like what their hair does when a gust of wind comes and there is some sexual desire there as well. They subconsciously know it. 99.9% of male female interaction has some kind of sexual componet in there somewhere. It's the way it is, only, society seems to ignore this. As long as they're comfortable with it and take the picture, it's not a problem. As far as the equipment you use, the size of the lens, etc., from my experience, doesn't matter. Some people say it does, but as long as they think as such, it will be an issue. What matters is coming forth as honest, well intentioned, pleasant and pleasantly ready to accept rejection if need be. I'm to the point now, where I can sense by looking, who is likely to approve or not. You work with enough of the random public, this is what will happen. It's not long before it becomes more than photography, but raw, quality human interaction. It's very enjoyable, with each favorable encounter you can play around with the psychology of the interaction and just have fun
It's also become much less tense/awkward to ask for a portrait then to take a candid without asking.