The reason P&S work so well in these situations is because of the sensor size and DOF. P&S have very small sensors with deeps/large depth of field. They also come with focus assist lights. Their af system doesn't have to work very hard as most of the time they are hyper focal (everything is in focus) at the ranges you generally shoot.
A DSLR will take more work to get a proper picture but it does give you the possibility to get a lot better picture than the P&S can.
I gives you the possibility to use a proper large aperture lens, higher cleaner iso and better subject isolation through the use of shallow depth of field.
So, with proper tools the DSLR will focus just as fine but you need to know what you're doing. If you want to use it as a P&S a P&S will be better at it
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