Hey, welcome!
Originally posted by Bertminator I was actually referring to setting the Focal Length when using a manual focus zoom lens
Yes, camera only asks you about that for SR purposes. Some say to select the most used focal length, others to use the widest (that way SR won't overcompensate and blur the image, but it won't be as effective on the longer focal lengths). You can try just disabling SR and it won't matter at all what focal length you input, except the info in the exif.
But its not that "this ruins manual zoom" - manual zoom lenses were made way before AF and SR even existed. So how can you expect your modern day digital camera to communicate with a lens that was made in the 80s, 70s? At least you still get to use it, even if with some limited functionality (like missing AF, missing A on aperture, missing focal length contacts..)