You just use photoshop and then you use something like blur, history blur, or one of the other many types of blur and you blur the hell out of everything that is OoF. The key is to do it seamlessly, not to blur too much on one end. Use layers so you can always revert.
Oh, and you get the most shallow DoF with the following formula: -highest focal length, -lowest f-number, -lens focused to minimum focus distance
This is why something like 200mm macro lens will give you incredible blur in the macro range. But at that point, shallow DoF is a problem and people use high apertures like f16 and focus stacking to avoid blur.
Blur is overrated. The thing with the 3D pop is that it is more than just a shallow DoF. Some lenses are just good at this 3D pop, like FA 43mm, even though the lens is not ultra fast or tele or macro. In Pentax-land this is usually called pixie dust, when a photo just looks a little more lifelike, a little more 3D than expected
OH and if you shoot raw, there are all sorts of plugins and presets that will add all sorts of clarity, sharpness, and bokeh. Alien skin, Nik silver efex, Topaz clarity, and others
Last edited by Na Horuk; 03-26-2015 at 11:03 AM.