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I have experience with the aftermarket split prism screen, although mine is on a K1. You do need to get it adjusted correctly when you install it, which probably involves a little trial and error with shims, but once it's adjusted good it's very nice to have. I also highly recommend
Eyecup O-ME53; in fact I would say that should be purchased regardless of whether you go with the aftermarket focusing screen.
Still, it's often difficult to nail focus %100 through the viewfinder with wide open fast lenses. It's always some hits but plenty of misses. Frankly I don't think there's any getting around that, and I think I do just about as good with my split prism as if I use focus confirmation or catch in focus (which aren't perfect, either).
Part of it is technique, which I know I still have a long way to go. But I think the other part is just how exacting we are about focus these days with great sensors and "pixel peeping."
I just try and enjoy myself anyways!
As for metering, I don't doubt the screen affects it to some extent, but I haven't seen it as a problem at all. I always have to pay attention on the instant review and histogram to see how my shots are coming out anyhow, and I adjust the +/- a little here or there. I don't think the aftermarket screen affects it by enough to make a major difference in any of that.