I'm at work right now, but I'll try to get some posted later tonight. I've seen threads discussing this same complaint before (in years past), but haven't been following the Forum in quite a while due to other activities eating into Photo time.
This guy is asking essentially the same question (though not about a Pentax):
http://photography-on-the.net/forum/showthread.php?t=18977
An answer says "The flash fires twice because of E-TTL Evaluative-Through-The-Lens). A pre-flash is fired to measure the light and determine the main flash output. This function is disabled in the Manual mode, so the flash will fire only once. In the M mode you will have to adjust the flash output manually. Otherwise, the flash will fire at full power all the time and, most likely, you pictures will be severely overexposed."
Is this the same issue I'm experiencing? My Flashes are shooting once to evaluate main flash output, and that short first burst is causing people to close their eyes? This person then says to try getting a flash that can be used as a bounce so that the preflash isn't hitting people in the face... but that's not an option for me (most of the time) since I shoot outside at night.
Anyone aware of a workaround? Anything else that I can try? Is it time to learn to use my flash manually?