Originally posted by richard balonglong Hmmm... I would like to share somewhat "obstacle" in my photography. This may sound rude, but here it is... My girlfriend! hehehe. Why?? Every time I plan for a shoot she always steps-in and tell me that we'll go out for a walk or a dinner or a date. It's like she's doing that on purpose! But if I'll bring along her from my photo shoot, and when the time I'll pull out my camera to shoot she'll go mad and don't want to talk to me. Usually, she'll just walks-out. So, I have to fallow her and talk to her. She feels like she's out-of-place if I'll shoot something other than her face. And, if I have a round-trip travel for a paid photo shoot, she still gets mad and tells me "go! marry your camera!". Man!! Her attitude is a big obstacle!! hehehe... >8D
You need a new girlfriend, one that is far less self-centered. Anyone who truly isn't comfortable with you holding a camera unless it's aimed at them has serious issues of the clinging, jealousy kind. It's a machine, a tool to be used, not another woman around to compete with. I wouldn't even offer to take her along and if she keeps throwing tantrums like a two year old over your wanting to shoot, I'd tell her that it's unacceptable and mean it. If she gives you further grief I'd say goodbye, even if it hurts.
If she's this bad about your photography think about how bad she is going to be over anything else that takes any time away from her. Is that what you want? A significant other who you can't take two steps away from without a fight? Someone who insists upon being the center of your world 24/7, 7 days a week? That's no way to live.
I actually stopped seeing a guy for similar reasons. His behavior was a like that and it was a major red flag. If he'd had his way I would have never spoken to anyone but him. I would have never had any kind of activity that didn't involve him. I would have never went anywhere without him. Forget the boudoir work I want to do or shooting any guys at all. That would have been out of the question.
I see someone acting like that and it's like they have a sign on their heads screaming "Danger, Will Robinson, Danger!!!!"