Since no one answered you yet I'll give it a shot.
It's hard to judge whether you have the good perception or not.
-3 Acceptable DOF doesn't seem correct, it's acceptable sharpness we talk about.
I'll try to explain my take on the whole DOF thing, might give you some more ideas.
First the definition: Depth of field is defined as the range of object distances within which objects are imaged with acceptable sharpness.
This seems to be generally accepted. See
Definitions of Depth of Field
You need a sharpness criterium: Circle of Confusion (CoC). it's the diameter of an unsharply imaged point on the sensor/film plane. You define what you find acceptably sharp by choosing a maximum CoC size.
I feel you should split the whole DOF concept in two parts:
1- the imaging of the object on the image plane
2- the creation and viewing of the resulting image, whether in print or on screen etc.
1) This is the simple part in the process. By assuming a thin, perfect lens that projects the image on a plane that can resolve infinitely small points you can simplify calculations. We need some more assumptions, but this works pretty neat in practice.
Points on the focussed distance will be projected as points. Points in front or behind the focussed plane will be projected as circles. If the circlediameter is equal to or smaller than the choosen max. CoC the point falls within the DOF.
Now you can calculate DOF, using Focussed distance, focal length, aperture and the choosen CoC.
Assuming a certain CoC you can also create the DOF scales on lenses.
2) This is the part where the confusion begins.
First of, I hesitate to talk about DOF in a 2D image. It's sharpness we're discussing, but this is perhaps philosophical.
In this process we work with imperfect lenses, perhaps incapable of resolving anything sharp in the corners.
We use sensors/film of certain dimensions, with a certain resolution.
We use a certain magnification, projecting the image on a medium with certain dimensions, capable of displaying with a certain maximum resolution.
We view with our imperfect eyes, from different distances, under different lighting conditions.
I surely missed some factors that influence all this, but you'll get the idea.
Given the way YOU normally display/view your images, you can decide on a CoC that matches your needs.
It'll give you a "recipe" to create those nice portraits with the blurry backgrounds, or those tack sharp landscapes, using hyperfocal distance (yikes) focussing.
Don't get overly excited in calculating DOF. It's a gradual thing anyway. Points on the focussed distance will be sharpest, others will be less sharp. Points around the boundaries of the DOF will be ALMOST the same sharpness, while one is acceptably sharp and another just isn't.
I again recommand reading this article
DOF Revisited. It gives a very usefull way to work with DOF.