Can't say much about the lenses, I don't have either one but if I understand it correctly, the most important factor in letting light in is the aperture. With telescopes, yes, the size of the objective lens or primary mirror matters a lot. With camera lenses, it's probably not as important.
The dark viewfinder when using the toilet paper tube is because the aperture is usually held open when using standard lenses, so you can see to focus, then it stops down to take the picture and opens back up. With the tube in place you have no aperture control (that little arm sticking out the back of the lens) so the aperture can't work as it should.
That's why a true extension tube is a good thing, and you can also take the lenses out of a teleconverter and make it into a great extension tube, and usually a lot cheaper than a true extension tube. That's the one thing missing from the cheap chinese ones available on fleabay. They work fine, but you have the same problem. Open up the aperture to focus, [manually] stop down to shoot, and you often lose your focus in the process. I Have the same problem using my M42 macro rigs.
Moving in close or further away is usually much better than using the focus ring, I use that technique most of the time, but I do sometimes use the focusing ring too.
Pop up flash - You can make a diffuser from a cash register receipt. The printed side is heat sensitive, it will turn black after a half dozen flashes, so make sure that side is facing away from the flash. Get one about 5 to 6 inches long and fold it in half lengthwise. Then fold it in thirds, making a small envelope. Tape it so it won't unfold, then separate it so only one layer is in front of the flash and slip it on top of the built in flash. As long as the heat sensitive side is facing away from the flash, I've used them for a week or more until they got lost or crushed. I got a girl at a convenience store to give me one unprinted, she scrolled off about 2 feet, the store name printed at the top so I knew which side to use. It lasted me 2 or 3 months.
You can also find older flashes with adjustable power levels that will work well. Mine is a Vivitar 285 HV, does a great job. Voltage is a consideration, but not hard to check if you can use a multimeter. Mine checks at around 7 volts. I think Pentax is good up to at least 12 volts, maybe a little more, but I try to stay around 5-7V. I have 3 or 4 that will work, left over from 30 years of film, the Vivitar is the only one I use due to the adjustable power level. It also has a slot in front for diffusers, but I don't have any that fit.
Here is the forums review on the 285HV
Vivitar 285HV Zoom Thyristor reviews - Pentax Camera Accessory Review Database
A bit of googling and you might find an affordable one.