Originally posted by Zilla I don't, and don't want to, use flash in this setting.
Simply put, you will not be able to expose for the candle without using an external light source that can balance it out. It will be EXTREMELY difficult to balance lighting with a continuous light source, you really need to use flash.
Either the candle flame will be properly exposed and the rest of the scene will be dark, or the candle flame will be blown out if the rest of the scene is lit properly. Without anohter light source, the dynamic range is simply too high.