Originally posted by hillerby RatMagicLady has made a rather astute observation! Vets (Vietnam Vets in particular) don't usually share a lot of war stories. They will (and often do) share those stories with other veterans. Those of us who served in Vietnam generally don't do it because of the negative reception we almost universally received when we returned. Additionally, there is a phrase veterans all seem to fall back on..."If I have to explain it, you wouldn't understand it anyway!".
In my case, I spent the better part of 30 years either ignoring, avoiding, and sometimes denying the fact that I was even in Vietnam. I ultimately came to the point where I saw so many incorrect assumptions about Vietnam being made that I decided to simply speak out.
There are a great many things that I never speak about unless it's with another Vietnam Vet (We often don't even discuss some things with veterans of other wars).
A little know fact, that I discovered about Vietnam Vets is that over the years we developed a "code language" to determine if the person with whom we were speaking was someone with whom we could speak openly. To this day, my wife can't figure out how I can walk into a room of say 50 complete strangers and IF there's another Vietnam Vet, we'll be conversing as if we'd been friends for years!
It's my personal theory that this "code language" is a "defense mechanism" we disovered individually (and perhaps accidentally) as the years went by and has now become a matter of habit.
I don't have too much trouble discussing it now, but there are still things that I keep pretty "close to the vest".
In conclusion, a "word to the wise".... NEVER ask a combat veteran if (or how many) people he killed! I personally consider it insensitive to say the least; and vulgar and intrusive at worst.
I'll be going through some pictures this weekend and see if I can get a few more scans made to post here.
I'd like to personally thank all of you who've been so interested (and I notice) regularly monitoring this thread. It's been a real surprise to me thus far.
You're quite right about vets talking about their experiences. My grandfather was a 35-yr Navy vet, and I can recall exactly
two stories about his WW2 time (he was in the Pacific Fleet the duration of the war). And one of those stories consisted entirely of saying "I was over on the USS Arizona all day on December 6th with a work crew from our ship, but we hadn't gone over there yet on the 7th". He never said anything more than that...
For myself, I also thank you for the photos, for your service, and for the perspective we rarely get to hear from. I did 13 years as an Air Force comm/computer officer, and the support guys aren't usually the ones with a message that gets heard. We do important functions, they just tend to be behind the scenes. I got to babysit a computer sending out weather info and computer-generated flight plans in Gulf War 1 - crucial in the overall effort but not exactly inspirational...
Jim