You need to experiment, but basically you have two options:
1. Full manual - find a shutter speed, where you have room to work the aperture both ways.
2. Aperture priority, with negative Exposure Compensation. If you underexpose one stop, you "just" have to add one stop with the flash each time, to get a good exposure.
The important thing here is that you do not want the camera to change the aperture on you. You want to control that, as that's what has an impact on how much flash is used - shutter speed has no impact in how much light from the flash hits the sensor.
Things to remember:
* Keep shutter speed lower then 1/180
* Underexpose internal flash as much as possible, so that it doesn't light the subject
* If you bounce the flash of something it will be a lot weaker (but softer), then if you shine it directly at your subject
Here's a few from yesterday at the Airplane Museum, where I used the second technique on my kids...
Full set here:
Strobing the kids at the Airplane Museum - a set on Flickr