Originally posted by Deiberson this is where i get a little confused. from what i read regarding using the flash, i should control the exposure with the aperture dial, right? or can i control the exposure with the amount of flash i'm using?
Either is possible; depends on the effect you are after.
The whole point of what you are doing (trying to take control of anything at all rather than using full auto settings) is so that *you*, not the camera or the flash unit, is in control of the balance between the ambient light and the flash. The flash automation is such that it always how how much flash is needed to yield a good exposure given the exposure you have selected for the ambient light. If you select an exposure for the ambient light that results in a 0 meter reading, the flash won't need to fire at all (although it probably will anyhow). If you select an exposure for the ambient light that results in a -1 meter reading, the flash will fire "a little" to make up the difference, resulting in a picture in which most of the light is ambient, with just a little coming from the flash. If you select an exposure for the ambient light that results in a -2 EV meter reading, the flash will fire *more*, resulting in a picture that more obviously has both ambient light and flash in in. If you select an exposure for the ambient light that results in -3 or lower on the meter, the flash will be providing most of the light in the picture. All of these options will result ina picture that's the same overall brightness level, but just different relative amounts of ambient light and flash.
So you choose aperture and shutter speed in M mode to control how much ambient light is in the picture. The flash then figures out for itself how much it needs to fire. If you dial back the flash power, then it won't try to make up *all* the difference between the ambient light exposure "correct" exposure, so you'll get a picture that's darker overall, just as if you had used negative exposure compensation in an auto mode. Or so I assume - I don't know your particular flash unit.
Quote: specifically...let me use the 18-55 kit lens for the example. an auto focusing lens, how would i boost the flash in p-ttl (auto)?
The flash compensation control on your camera.
Quote: or would i need to be in M mode on the flash to increase the flash power?
Not at all. M mode is needed only when you are trying to control the balance between ambient light and flash. If you just want more flash, and don't care how much ambient light there is or isn't in the picture, flash compensation works just fine even in P mode.
Flash is a pretty complicated subject if you let it be. If you want to understand it better, see the "strobist" site:
Strobist