It's been about a year since I first replied here. Just had carnival and Copenhagen Distortion events again same as last year. I recall how it (I) was back then and the difference this time around was pretty uplifting.
I suppose my body language is more confident and relaxed now since I had many people come up to me, asking me to have pics taken. I also had lots and lots of eye contacts which beforehand would be my que to move on, whereas now, I used them a lot more to figure out weather the person I was in contact with would mind being photographed. I often even kept the cam aimed at any particular person in hopes for him/her to notice me. Would never have done that a year ago or even 6 months ago
All in all I'm very pleased I stuck with it and tried to overcome the self-conscious issue. I've kept shooting a lot which helps build confidence regarding operating the camera. This should be the easiest obstacle to overcome (but apparently it isn't for some - I'm talking about basics - not quick and uber skilled operation). I've also done lots of portraits, especially over the past 6 months, which also helped to get accustomed to having a person wait for me to get the settings right, take pictures and direct and whatnot. I felt very obligated to get it right in the first few attempts, in the beginning, or perhaps it was the desire to end the torture
but now I'm more like "if you want a good photograph then expect to spend some time with me"
I discovered shooting portraits of friends could become a false-security trap, so I quickly moved on to friends of friends - because I *wanted* those uncomfortable scenarios. You can make a bummer in front of a friend and laugh about it but it's not entirely fun when you do it in front of someone you do not know - but since its a friend of a friend, it was still easier to grasp the mistakes.
This was my approach though and not two persons are the same, so some other approach might also work.
Two of the most challenging type of shots - wouldn't have had guts to take these before, or perhaps just take one and then run away and hide:
I didn't just take one, which would have been much much easier, but a series of shots - I didn't really like the first ones and waited to see if something interesting happened. She had a sip of her beer and that was it - she seemed to be cool with me photographing her as well, so that naturally helped too.
I'm on a stage in this one - it was a small stage but still. Just went up there by myself like the saying goes "take pics first, ask later"
I got kicked off when the band changed. I think I spent at least 30 mins up there.
There are many more examples, but I don't want to drown you with links.
I'm very happy with how things have turned out - if you are in doubt then all I can say is to stick with it and take one step at a time, but make sure you challenge yourself to break *your* barriers. These, I think, are the biggest obstacles.