Originally posted by jcagara08
I like the 35, subject I mean FOV is even wider but is 3 stops slower
It's about one stop slower. (Those settings you click through are partial stops)
As you found with the 50 at 1.8, you can get too little of your subject in focus.
For a portrait, you might want f4 or f5.6. No point getting some friends clear in a group shot and not others, either - it might require f8.
You've discovered TaV mode.
Decide the maximum aperture you need to cover your subjects' DoF.
Then choose a shutter speed high enough that in conjunction with good holding technique will minimize the blur of your subjects and the movement of your hands.
Let the ISO automatically increase to follow.
You can always post process for noise, you can't do much with a shot where you or the pet dog you're shooting moved.
This aperture-first approach is so useful many photographers shoot in Av mode.
If you get the camera to make these settings automatically it can't read your mind about depth of field and freezing motion. Remember, this is why you got a DSLR in the first place - to take control back from the phone.
By opposite strategy you may find in something like a low light concert with a fast lens that you'll set the shutter speed first to a minimum, then cap the ISO to keep noise down, and let the aperture get as wide as possible.